Day 2: Reflect, Review and Rethink Your List | 30-Day Confidence Challenge

How did you find yesterday’s task?

Were there ‘descriptives’ that were difficult to admit? Was it a breeze for you to just keep jotting down ideas and words? The experience is going to be different per individual and that is fine. What is important is that you finished the task and that you remain committed. After all, we have 29 days to go.

Like I said, this is not going to be an easy ride. All change or growth go through difficult times. These are times when we need to take a long, hard look at ourselves to see where we can still improve, the adjustment to something new and letting go of something (or someone) you have grown accustomed to. But it will all be worth it. In the end you will see how fun and fulfilling this month has been for you.

First steps are always the hardest but until they are taken the notion of progress remains only a notion and not an achievement.”

Aberjhani, Illuminated Corners: Collected Essays and Articles Volume I
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Day 2 Challenge: Reflect, Review and Rethink Your List

Take out your list from yesterday. Add the column headers such as in the below example.

Sample

Positive or Negative

There is no absolute positive or negative value. Note one as positive if this is something desirable for you. And negative if otherwise. Fat for example, can be positive for someone who has struggled with weight gain all his/her life. Another example could be responsible. I might say it is positive, but someone who is overburdened by his/her responsibility might consider it negative.

Permanent or Temporary

As in events in our lives, is it something passing or fleeting or just locked at a point in your life? If it is, it is temporary. If this is something you have for all your life and is a continuous state or theme, it can be permanent. Talents and strengths are generally permanent while moods and emotions are generally temporary.

Basis

What is the objective basis of your description. Is it based on what is actual? Is there a measure? Is it based on reliable, valid feedback? Does it have solid ground? Or is it as opposed to an ideal notion such as in my example above; much worse, is it based on the ideal as media portrays it to be.

PAUSE now and reflect, review and rethink your list.

Now…. let’s classify, shall we?
  1. Highlight or underline those that’s negative. Especially, look for those that’s negative and temporary, these are easier wins. Negative and permanent might take some more time, but something can still be done about them.
  2. Create action plans for these.
  3. Find negative items without sound basis. They may be your own assumptions which may not be true, hence could be taken out of your negative list. In my coaching and counseling practice, I see that often when people think about something negative about themselves, these are their own saboteur. Not grounded on any valid basis and often, in fact, other people see these traits differently. We have to free ourselves from these beliefs. We will talk more about this in the next few days.
  4. Celebrate the positive ones, both permanent and temporary. Keep these in mind and strengthen them.

Action Plan

Picking up from number 2 above. Create action plans for those that you can do something about.

What are your realizations from today’s exercise? It would be nice to share with your team or trusted friends and hear them out, too.


Thank you! It’m glad to see you again.

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An Invite: 30-Day Confidence Challenge

Join us as we embark on the 30-Day Confidence Challenge. The goal is to push the boundaries of what’s comfortable and what’s usual to unleash your best selves.

If you are ready to move beyond your comfort zone, join us from March 1st to March 31st. There will be thoughts and tasks daily (more details below), which will be fun, well, not always easy, but surely you’ll have self-discoveries, realizations and changes that you will love. Team Leads and Managers, this can be a fun and fulfilling team activity as well! There are days when output sharing is necessary, so journeying with teammates or someone you trust is going to be awesome.


Anna (not her real name) was shy, always slouching and never spoke up in meetings. In 1-1 conversations with me, she was an A+ employee. She knew what she was doing and an expert in her field. The Country Head does not see her the same way, though. She appears to be someone who was timid and somewhat of a pushover.

We worked on building her confidence to overturn this perception. It was not easy but she stayed on and worked hard.

Now, Country Head and everyone in the team look up to her when it comes to her area of expertise and doubles as “ate” to the younger teammates.


Many years ago, I was asked to buddy up with the bottom agent from another customer service team. This was my first coaching experience in a corporate set-up yet an experience I would never forget.

My buddy, John (not his real name), had the lowest Quality Assurance score, lowest Customer Satisfaction score and longest handle time.

As this was my first time to coach, I didn’t know what to do so I started with the basics – I tried to understand him as a person. He was an interesting character – always looking at the floor or ceiling, dandruff all over his shoulders and back, same (and smelly) jacket everyday, hair covering a good 80% of his face. You get the picture.

He said he was not confident, that he was shy and feels invisible. I asked if he could change anything, what would it be. He wanted to be seen and to feel comfortable being with other people. So, I helped him, we worked on basic hygiene to good grooming to how to look confident in his walk, gait and gestures. We worked together and ensured that the basics are in place.

You might think of it as a counter intuitive move. The other buddies went straight to addressing their metrics and how to be better at QA or Customer Satisfaction. But you know who ended at the top of their team the very next month?

It was John!

Now, John is an esteemed Manager in the Contact Center space and a happily married man.


I believe in laying cornerstones, in making sure that the basics are in place before moving to solve other issues. In fact, often, the issues would self-correct once the foundations are strong.

Just look around you. All the people you look up to. All the leaders you admire. There is one common denoinator. That is Confidence. Confidence is among the basics to a success career and not only that, even in your personal endeavor and relationships.

Luckily, for many of you, boosting confidence will not start from where John did. [If you see yourself in John, please write to me, I would be happy to work with you personally]. However, regardless where you are strating in this confidence journey, it will take work, it will take heart, but for sure, you will reap the rewards in the end.

I can’t wait to get started in this journey with you! So…


What will happen in the next 30+2 days?

We are starting with the 30-Day Challenge on March 1st to 30th. Everyday, at 7AM (MNL), I will publish your tasks for the day, in bite-size, easy readings. You will work on what’s being asked and you are to share your output to your teammates or to a trusted someone at the end of the day.

There are 2 primer days on Feb 27th (update: click this link for the 1st primer) and 28th (update: click this link for the 2nd primer) for tips on how to get going and get things done based on your own tendencies.

Core Areas:

  • 5 days for Mindset Matters
  • 6 days for Personal Image
  • 6 days for Communications Sharpening
  • 4 days for Strengths Development
  • 4 days for the Heart
  • 5 days to nourish the Spirit

Excited? See you tomorrow at 7am and everyday on til March 30th!

If you are reading this after Feb. 27th, it’s ok, just take it one day at a time! Bring your team with you to make it extra fun!


Thank you for visiting!

For Strengths Coaching and HR Consulting, please send an email to emiletherese@yahoo.com. As a Gallup-Certified Strengths Coach, I am happy to join your personal, family and team development journey. 

For more HR, Employee and Leadership related topics, follows me on Engagement Imperative, LinkedIn and  Facebook.

Unravel and Start Anew

In the world of crochet, “unravel” is a dreaded term. It means you have to undo what you have so lovingly and patiently created to, usually, make corrections. Sometimes it is just a couple of stitches back, other times it is a couple of miles long!

In the picture was supposed to be a dress for my daughter. When I started making it, she was only 2 years old. Now, she's three and of course bigger and taller. Plus, I think I used the wrong kind of yarn here. 100% Cotton - already heavy and not even half way done. So now that I am interested in the zero-waste lifestyle (though more like reduced-waste lifestyle), I unravelled the cotton yarns to turn them into reusable facial cotton pads!Turning and old unfinished work into reusable cotton pads!

To unravel is physically very easy, all you have to do is to keep on pulling the yarn. It can be a psychologically painful process, though. To watch your hard work and hours spent go to waste. Although, it is necessary, so you can have a wonderful output. We never unravel to make something look worse. Always, we unravel to make our work look lovelier, a more beautiful piece of craft. We can also unravel a work, not just to rework but to create an entirely different piece, or pieces, if we feel stuck or messed up too much on the other.

In the picture was supposed to be a dress for my daughter. When I started making it, she was only 2 years old. Now, she’s three and of course bigger and taller. Plus, I think I used the wrong kind of yarn here. 100% Cotton – already heavy and not even half way done. So now that I am interested in the zero-waste lifestyle (though more like reduced-waste lifestyle), I unravelled the cotton yarns to turn them into reusable facial cotton pads!

The same is true in life – even our corporate lives. Sometimes we mess up, sometimes we feel stuck, not growing nor progressing in our job or project. Sometimes we feel as if we are not in the place we want, not in the place where we could feel fulfilled and where we could better serve our purpose. Remember, you don’t have to stay there.

Don’t worry, resignation is not always the answer. Speak with your Coach/Manager, your HR Partner, or your Mentor to share your thoughts and ask for guidance to move forward. A new project, an additional scope and responsibility or a new role might be the answer.

Remember that you always have the option to unravel and go back to start over. You also have the option to unravel and create something new!

The New Year is a great reminder for all of us that no matter our age, our nationality or state in life. We can always start something fresh, something new, always a better version.

Happy New Year! Happy unraveling and starting something new! 🙂